As we develop in life, we often create three categories in regards to skills. What we’re good at, what we’re bad at and what we’re okay at. We progress through education and early adult life gaining an increased understanding of what falls in to each category. Sometimes a skill will move from one category to another, other times it will rise to the top of the list or drop off completely.
For example, I was big in to football coaching (soccer, for those based in America). I used to coach children and this skill slotted into the ‘good at’ category nicely. I began to improve my coaching skill with qualifications and experience; as my ability increased, so did the importance of the skill within the category. I had decided that I wanted to be a football coach. Over the next year I lost my motivation for coaching children. Reasons had caused me to no longer want to pursue it, allowing it to drop off the scale.
The reason for the example is to show that I was willing to pursue something I was good at and make it my full time job. I would turn it into a career and one day coach at a Premier League club. We are told to follow our passions and do what we want to do (although this often is fake and society funnels us in to jobs to act as a robot would). Football coaching obviously wasn’t my passion hence why it fell off so quickly – from a little nudge.
I find myself regularly being told that I should be a chef. This judgement is because I enjoy cooking and, to be fair, I am good. Do I want to do it as a full time career? NO!
Cooking for others in a high pressured situation does not sound ideal for me. I could do it, I have done it, but never full time. I simply do not wish to spend at least 8 hours every day working for someone else in a hot kitchen.
My advice to you, is to spend time getting to know yourself. This means reading and experimenting with different hobbies such as blogging, cooking, whatever. It is often not clear what you want to do, but eventually you will find it. Just keep searching. I became a full time writer through my journey, it came because I wanted to run my own business. I wanted to create something and make money from it, that sounded good. My various business ideas failed, but I never gave up and now I run my own, albeit tiny, business writing when I want, about what I want.
Don’t let the pressures of the world force you into doing something you don’t want to. Live your life without others taking advantage of it.
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